What Would You Change?


Today we are going to Muse about a do-over.  If this is your first visit, welcome to Musings. If you have been here before, welcome back. Over time we are going to talk about many things: the past, the present, perhaps the future, travel, art, society and more. Wherever my musing takes me. I hope you will come along with me.

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If you were to live your life over, what would you change?

Jeanette posed that question to me the other night as we were sitting in the quiet, enjoying an evening cocktail.  Indeed!  That is a tough one.

Throughout the years we have all made decisions that shaped our future options, some good, some we regretted.

art teacher

art teacher

Right out of school I was an art teacher in Bakersfield, California.  After two years I took a job in Casa Grande, Arizona because I did not like Bakersfield.  Had I not taken the new job I probably would have continued as a teacher.  However. the school system in Casa Grande was poorly financed and the administration treated the teachers with little respect. In frustration I decided to leave teaching.  I did not have confidence that I could make a living as an artist and I went into life insurance sales.

Life insurance salesman

Life insurance salesman

Life insurance sales was a great career.  I did well.  I became a Chartered Life Underwriter (CLU) and a Chartered Financial Consultant (ChFC).  I became in time a General Agent, with my own agency.

trust officer

trust officer

Later, at a time of midlife crisis, I left the insurance career to become a trust officer.  I was talking with a friend who was a trust officer and she was explaining what she did and how much she enjoyed it.  I realized that with my training, being a CLU and ChFC, I knew more about trusts than she did.  I was in a failing marriage and wanted change.  So, I became a trust banker.

Had I not quit my position in Bakersfield, I would not have moved to Casa Grande. Had I not moved to Casa Grande, I would have not gone into the Life Insurance business.  Had I not gone into the Life Insurance I would not have become a trust banker.  And on it goes.

Some of my decisions, I regretted. But they shaped the decisions and opportunities that followed.  If I had not gotten married, or married a different woman; if I had stayed a teacher or had not gone into sales; if any of my major life decisions had been different where would I be today?  We cannot know.

One Thing

There is one thing that comes to mind.  If I had a do-over, I would talk to my grandparents and parents about their life experiences and history.  As a child and adolescent I was pretty self-absorbed, into myself.  It was only after the possibility had passed that I began to wonder about what my grandparents or parents thought, did or wished for.  I regret that lost opportunity.

The Road Not Taken

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

If you were to live your life over, what would you change?

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About Thomas L. Tribby

Professional artist: painter, sculptor, print maker. Maintains a studio in West Palm Beach, Florida
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1 Response to What Would You Change?

  1. scott robertson says:

    When you come to a fork in the road take it. Yogi Berra Scott Robertson Scott Robertson Interiors Inc. 1020 N. Golfview Rd. Lake Worth Fl. 33460 (561) 301-0449

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